My Marriage Story

This story was written shortly after my wife Danielle and I were engaged in February of 2011. I am still amazed by the goodness and faithfulness of our God. I hope this a blessing to you as well.

Trust in the LORD, and do good; Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.   Delight yourself also in the LORD, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.   Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, And He shall bring it to pass.   He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, And your justice as the noonday.   Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass.   Cease from anger, and forsake wrath; Do not fret—it only causes harm.

Psalm 37:3-8

    These verses are a description of what God has done in our lives, a summary of how God brought us together. To be completely honest when we sat down to write out how this marriage came together we both just sat and stared at the screen blankly, still amazed of how God knit our hearts together and showed Himself so faithful in our lives. This story seems to beyond our communication skills, but we hope to share with you how by seeking, trusting, and waiting on our God He has brought us together in a way that is completely foreign to the world and conventional wisdom. God has brought us together according to His Word, according to His promises, and according to His faithfulness. Our hope is that we could share this God story with the people we love because truly this isn’t our story… it’s God’s.

The day we became engaged was the first day either of us ever had shared our love for one another. It was the first time we had ever been alone together. It was the first time we had ever allowed ourselves to share what God had been doing in each of our hearts. Yet, without any dating, without any physical contact, and without any previous emotional interaction we committed to each other for the rest of our lives. As we both nervously stepped out the house and walked towards the cliffs near our house, we shared our hearts, and it was amazing to see how God had spoken to both of us, and placed a supernatural love in each of our hearts for one another. Yet, as amazing as it was to finally hear from the other person what God had already been speaking to us, the rings were already purchased and the decision was already made. This was from God, and before the foundations of the world God had made us for one another, and through much prayer, and much waiting God had already told both of us… “The two shall become one”.  So we shared, we cried, we became engaged, and then we prayed and thanked God together because truly, by His faithfulness, He had brought us together.

This all started in the fall of 2010 when we happened to run into each other, and had a very casual conversation. Neither of us remeber what was said, but it caused both of us to ask God, what was that about?

We wouldn’t talk to each other or see each other for the next couple of months, but whether during new jobs or mission trips, God continued to put each other on our hearts, and we were praying for God to either let us know if there was anything to this, or take this thing, this feeling, away. There was no sense of love at first sight, but we were continually coming up in one another minds and prayers. We both just wanted to live for Jesus, and only get involved in anything if it was from God…

Then God began to move. First, after the mission trip to Chile, I came back to a different living situation that within a few days had me back living in Fort Bragg. I moved in with Danielle’s family which had become, and would become even more so, my family too. But Danielle was still in Orange County going to school and working, but God was slowly revealing that His plan was for her to be back in Fort Bragg as well. Then in November, she knew that it was time for her to come home too.

As we lived together, in separate rooms under the watch of her parents, we began to notice things about each other. Things that were so alike, and we began to fall in love with each other’s desire to live for Jesus, and the persons He had made us. Yet, instead of dating or anything like that, we kept distance between each other. We did not want to engage in anything that was not of God. We wanted to be sure that this was God’s will, not our own. So we prayed, never mentioning what was going on except to God, and eventually to her parents. One of the things that I felt strongly about was not winning any of Danielle’s affection without the permission from her Father, who just happens to be his best friend and assistant pastor. Thankfully, Dan joyfully approved while wisely councilling patience and prayer.

This was not dating, this was not courting, but this was seeking God and trusting that He would add all things to us, even our spouse. As it says in Matthew 6:33, “But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.” We both believed this promise, even in a thing as big as the person we were going to spend the rest of our lives with, and God honored that in our lives. We were able to step out in faith and watch this promise become real in the biggest decision of our lives, other than accepting Jesus as our Lord and Savior ofcourse. We are still both so blown away by what God has done…It was all God.

The final confirmation is noteworthy in that after I decided on how to save up for the rings ( A matching set of white gold bands engraved with initials, and the Bible quote, “two shall become one”) while still paying off a student loan, God capped off the whole plan. After I decided on a Wednesday to slowly save while still paying off the loan, I found two old checks that had been miraculously misplaced in an old suitcase and a stack of old papers in the value of close to $1000… God spoke and informed me this was His plan, and He is my provider for everything. Especially in this thing that God had done. The rings were purchased that day, and placed on each other’s fingers the following Saturday.

This has been a whirlwind of love, joy, and faithfulness that can only come from God Almighty, and through His only Son who He gave to us all as a demonstration of His love and grace. All we can do is thank God, and ask Him to help us continue to walk before Him for the rest of our days.

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